Hey guys, I have a question. I am a female intj and i’ve realized that it’s quite difficult to maintain friendships/relationships for a long period of time. most of the time i get bored when i think we are not on the same intellectual level or share similar interests to discuss and/or talk about. sometimes the person is nice pretty and all, but for some reason i just can not keep being in touch for long. especially in relationships with people it’s difficult since many people value attention and a lot of affirmations in form of words. but it also applies to friendships where i ca’t be hyped all day without being annoyed. cause i really can’t with people who are slow like if they just can‘t get things done or are just not disciplined or even motivated enough to pursue them. cause i think i need a person that has goals so that we both have something to work towards to.
Also, if i like a person, I still don’t need to he constantly around them as a sign of love. But many people think i don’t like them anymore even if i still do, but just in a different font.
Have you experienced similar situations/feelings and is there some advice to improve that problem. I really want to improve and grow into a more understanding person that gives other people their space and gets hers as well.
Thank you a lot xx
