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My grandma passed away last year and left me her handwritten recipe book. It’s nothing fancy, just an old binder full of stained pages and little notes she added over the years. My cousin asked to borrow it because she wanted to make a few of the recipes, and I said yes as long as she gave it back that weekend.
Three weeks passed and she kept making excuses. Then I found out she was hosting a paid dinner at her house using Grandma’s recipes and had even printed little menus calling them her family originals.
I went over a few hours before the dinner and asked for the binder back. She refused because she still needed it to finish one of the desserts, so I took it off the counter and left. She had to improvise the recipe and apparently the dessert came out badly, which she says embarrassed her in front of everyone. I offered to pay for the ingredients she wasted, but she said that wasn’t the point.
Now half my family thinks I embarrassed her on purpose and should have waited until after the dinner. I feel like she had plenty of chances to return something that never belonged to her. AITA?
AITA || AIO
I (29M) made plans with five friends for dinner last Friday. We picked the restaurant earlier in the week, agreed on 7:00 pm, and everyone confirmed that morning. I got there a little early because parking around that area is usually terrible, so I grabbed the table and ordered a drink while I waited.
By 7:20 nobody had shown up. I texted the group asking if everyone was still coming. No response, spent another 30 min just scrolling on myprize and one person finally replied saying they were "running a little behind' that was it. No ETA, no explanation. I waited another 20 minutes, ordered an appetizer because I was starving, and still nothing. At that point I paid for my food, left the restaurant, and went home. What bothered me was sitting there for an hour and a half with almost no communication, wondering if I had somehow gotten the time wrong.
About 20 minutes after I got home, my phone started blowing up. Apparently everyone had arrived around 8:30 and was annoyed that I had left. They said I should have just waited because they were all together and assumed I knew they were coming. I told them I would've stayed if literally anyone had kept me updated, but sitting alone in a restaurant for 90 minutes with almost no communication felt disrespectful. Now a couple of them are saying I overreacted and made the night awkward for everyone. Am I the asshole for leaving instead of waiting even longer?
My aunt called me about baby stuff my cousin's daughter had outgrown since we are about to have a baby. I am very grateful they are giving us so much equipment and clothing and have expressed that. She mentioned them getting the walker out of storage and I said no need because we won't be using one, and she asked me why. So literally *all* I said was "I read online they aren't good for their physical development." I didn't go into detail or pass any judgements on what they chose to do. I didn't even say that I researched it or anything, I just said I had seen it online.
My cousin who I am not very close with has a following on Instagram and made a video about "mom-shaming" that was very obviously about me. My sister messaged her and confirmed, I do wish she hadn't, and my cousin said that I should be the one messaging her and apologizing. I did message her and said maybe some wires got crossed and I wasn't judging them at all, just that we were doing something different and had only said one sentence about it to her mom. Then my cousin sceeenshotted it and posted it to her stories and typed up a long post about people not being a village. And she said she's going to give the stuff to someone else unless I apologize.
I don't care about the stuff, I don't want it now, but I also don't want to apologize and don't think I should. I didn't do anything? My Mom thinks it's going to be awkward with family get togethers (they have a cruise at the end of August I obviously won't be on) and I should just apologize.
AITA?
