r/JodiMilan

I'm a 33M looking for a marriage that's simply about two people choosing to live together and build a peaceful life.

Why? I've lost so many people in my life that somewhere along the way I lost the ability to connect deeply with others. These days, I mostly work, pay EMIs and taxes, and travel whenever I get the chance.

I'm not as boring as that sounds. I love cooking—especially non-vegetarian dishes—and I'm comfortable with house chores because I've lived alone for years.

Financially: Average. I work as a Consultant at a Big 4 firm. In terms of inheritance, I'm asset-rich but cash-poor.

Why do I want this? I just want peace. These days everyone asks so many questions that it becomes exhausting.

Matrimony apps (especially Jeevansathi) have been a huge turn-off. Most profiles seem to be managed by parents, and the conversations revolve around everything except the girl herself. I'm always thinking, "Mujhe aapki ladki se shaadi karni hai, na ki poore parivaar se. Agar ladki ke behan ka pati Grade A officer hai, toh main kya karun?" My only questions are: What does she do? What does she want from life? That's enough for me. Maybe I'm wrong, but that's how I see it.

As for finances after marriage, I'd rather spend every penny on maintaining a happy life together than ever deal with divorce or separation. The idea itself feels painful to me. I've already lost my father, two mothers, and my sister. Life has been messy enough.

I'm not a saint. I've made mistakes, and I have a past. But I can promise this: it won't affect you, and I won't judge or interrogate you about yours either.

Sorry if this sounds like a rant. I guess I just wanted to put my thoughts out there.

Hi, I'm 35-year-old techie working in the IT sector. I'm making this post to understand whether I still have a realistic chance of finding a life partner as I've faced repeated rejections in the AM process after my breakup.

Two years ago, I adopted my two nieces (ages 7 and 4 now), daughters of my late brother and SIL. Since then, I've been living with my parents and raising my nieces together as a family.

I was in a long-term relationship before after that ended I took some time to focus on myself and started looking for an arranged marriage match earlier this year.

So far, I've faced several rejections which I understand that my situation may not be easy for everyone to accept.

I'm always upfront that my nieces are my daughters now and I am their parent and legal guardian. They will always be my responsibility. After my parents are no longer with us, I will have full custody of them and that's non negotiable for me.

That said, I'm open to living separately from my parents if my future partner prefers that. We can stay nearby so my parents and nieces remain close, while I continue to fulfill my responsibilities toward my nieces.

Another thing is that I don't plan to have biological children. I already have two daughters to raise and I don't believe I can do justice to a third child financially. Rather than being unfair to a future biological child, I've decided not to have one.

This has been another major reason for rejection, as most of the women I've met understandably want children of their own.

Apart from this, I have always been focused on my career and doing great in my professional life, my parents are independent too so I don't have any other responsibility.

I'd genuinely appreciate any suggestions or perspectives. Do you think someone in my situation still has a realistic chance of finding a compatible partner?

I am tall (5 10)

Would happily do house chores!